• First Majestic Comet@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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    Long hair is awesome, I know that unfortunately it’s considered feminine by gender stereotypes but that never stopped me from growing it out. Did cause problems with my school thinking I was (binary) trans though and trying to corner me with gross questions about “wanting to be a girl” that I didn’t want to discuss with them (was mostly teachers trying to get into this with me).

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      I (M) have a very long often braided hair and for me its always so funny when at my work some people see me from behind and say something like “hey girl”, then i turn around and have a beard and a deep voice. Thankfully i have been largely spared from harrasment because of long hair.

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        When I was a teenager I pretty much wanted to be Kurt Cobain.

        I got me a badass silver shirt like he was wearing in the Heart Shaped Box video.

        Any way, I was walking past the pay phone in a gas station parking lot when this fella said, “hey girl, nice ass.” I didn’t think he was talking to me so I kept walking, then he said, “hey shiny shirt. Don’t be shy.”

        I turned around, clearly a dude, and he looked so humiliated. He said, “Oh bro, dude, it’s the shirt and the hair man. I’m sorry.”

        I said, “well don’t back down on me now honey, I’m already worked up.”

        He then threatened to beat my ass while my friends and I laughed hysterically. Not gonna lie though, I was a little scared. I mean, we were rough hillbilly kids so I knew my friends would beat the shit out of him, but I was still a bit worried.

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        Honestly outside of the weird issues with my school and a bit of egging online I haven’t really experienced any major problems because of it, though I’m not sure if that’s because most people don’t mind or because they think I actually am a young girl since I do have a condition that causes me to look much younger than I am and also very androgynous.

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    I have a daughter being born soon and I hope I can properly express to her this sentiment.

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      This might be one of the hardest things as a parent. To give them a safe and nurturing environment without letting your preconceptions limiting what they can be. I’m not sure if it something that can actually be done but we can aspire to do it.

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        I just want her to be able to be who she wants to be without trying to fit whatever mold is pushed on her by her peers or other adults.

        No expectations about who I want her to be (even though we all do that), just support for the decisions she wants to make and the things she wants to do.

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    who you want to be

    No offense to anyone, but isn’t this actually anti-trans…?

    By making it aspirational, rather than what you identify as, this just makes it read as “if you want to, you can be another gender, an animal, a god, a tree, whatever!”

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      Not necessarily. You could also read this as the person in the comic being their preferred gender in every panel, but is just altering their gender expression towards something they’re happier with. Also, not everyone thinks about their gender that way. Some people really have thought about their gender in an aspirational way. I certainly did when I first started trying to figure out my gender.

      The sentence also says “who” instead of “what,” implying that you can be the person you want to be, but not an animal, god, or tree, as those are all not people. I think it’s also fair to assume that the comic’s statement is within reason. If someone interprets this comic to think that they can become a tree, that’s a bad faith interpretation.

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      I just want to say, as a therian I really don’t like how people try and use “identifying as animals” to put down trans people, species dysphoria is indeed real and I even experience it occasionally, I also do experience gender dysphoria so I can say they are absolutely not the same, they have similarities but aren’t the same.

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    I don’t care what anyone says you’ll never be a woman, you’re always going to be a man. A man who cuts off his dick is still a man.

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      Why don’t you fuck off with your hateful attitude. You don’t belong in this society if you’re going to treat people like a bigot.

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          Assholes who run this place are trying to supress me

          Did you forget that you’re going around calling everyone groomers and pedos? 🤔

          Nobody is trying to suppress you, sweetie. To everyone else in the room it’s pretty obvious why your comments would be getting deleted (assuming you’re not making shit up)

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          You’re not some kind of savior for children. You are a cause of mistreatment, and of depression and suicide. You are a hateful ugly person who has been misinformed and lied to about the LGBTQ+ community.

          Nobody is grooming kids, pedos aren’t pervading the community unlike white men and clergy are molesting children.

          You are clearly not smart enough to think for yourself because if you were, you wouldn’t be spewing the conservative talking points like a puppet.