For context, my teammate (F, 31) is interested to get to know another colleague from a different team (M, 28). The guy is definitely single and doesn’t reject the idea of a relationship (got to know as another teammate helped to ask). FYI, the guy has an introverted personality.

I’m not sure how to help convey my teammate’s feelings to the guy (like help to set a meet up, ask if he’s interested etc), without making it feel awkward for the both of them, should the guy is not interested in my teammate. Any suggestions?

    • Tarlia@monyet.ccM
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      1 year ago

      I sokong this idea.

      Doesn’t have to be lunch. Could be a post-work outing with another one or two colleagues who are good at breaking the ice and knows the agenda.

      And then ditch F31 and M28 halfway.

      • blubblubblub@monyet.ccOP
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        1 year ago

        Great great, will try this method! Bcs I’m not very close to M28, maybe will get his close colleagues to go along as well!

  • weecious@monyet.cc
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    1 year ago

    Invite both of them out to an event and hope for the best. That’s how I ended up my boyfie.

  • dcx@monyet.cc
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    1 year ago

    I’ve heard the Japanese dating protocol is you get one of his friends to casually ask what he thinks of her. And then if the signals are positive, then you can make it known you’ve heard she might be interested in being asked out. Ideally this step is indirect too, because you get told not by your teammate, but by someone who is friends with your teammate. So everyone’s “face” is always maintained.

    Seems like way too many steps though. Maybe just tell him to do a little dance