Been with this guy for 3 years now, I have been making plans in my head for when we are able to move in together, while unfortunately we were in a long distance relationship we still had a lot in common and were able to enjoy our time online together playing videogames and watching movies with the occasional visit once every 4 months or so for a week.
Such a pretty relationship, I feel, like I’m enjoying his company throughout my days of studying and university. But anyways, he feels like he doesn’t want to try to make our relationship workout anymore, so basically breaking up with me. I told him before I let him finish, that I’m gonna be a bit stubborn and still go ahead with my visit in 10 days to go talk to him in person to actually do this. He sighed, and said that he owes me that atleast. This is the 3rd time he’s trying to break up with me, and last time he promised that he’d wait for me and that he won’t break up with me again and that I’d be the one to do so. Just my trust in him is shattered after this.
I am just not sure which way to take this, try to continue with the visit and maybe still stay together or just decide not to go and cut him off from being friends. I’m not sure, part of me wants to still go and do agree we need to break up and just leave the relationship without a sour taste in the mouth, and maybe in the future be friends again.
Edit: Feeling better bout the break up now, I do know I’m not getting back together with them and probably not gonna talk to them for a very long time. I’ve reached out and made a new friend and I’ll keep on trying to find new ones to help with the being lonely part. Looking forwards to it
You admit that this is the third time your partner has broken up with you. I know it hurts and sucks, but it’s time to move on. You shouldn’t have to convince someone to love you and be with you. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and your (now ex) partner has the right to walk away amicably without being assailed for it (even if it would make you feel better emotionally for a time).
I’m sorry you’re having this experience though. I’ve been there and it’s the kind of thing that sticks with you. But you can and will get past it.
I’ve been doing really good on not messaging him rn. I’ll take your word on that “has the right to talk away amicably without being assailed for it”, I’ll do my best on that. Thx dud.