• insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Nowhere in the article does it say “help out”, that’s on you OP. Dads aren’t helping out when it’s their own family, they’re involved in their family life.

    Edit… Apologies, it does say that. It’s on the author then. Dads are members of their own family, not outside help.

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      2 months ago

      It’s the title from the article. The words help and out are literally the 3rd and 4th words on the page.

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      2 months ago

      Did you think I made up the title lol?

      And I get what you mean. But the data seems to say that women are the primary caregivers. If men were to do most of the cooking, wouldn’t we say women are helping in the kitchen? Maybe lawn care is a more realistic example. I think the second party is often described as “helping out”

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        2 months ago

        I did, yeah, sorry 😄

        No, when someone on a team is doing their job, you don’t call it helping, you just call it doing your job. I’m not helping by doing laundry, I’m just doing laundry. I’m not babysitting, I’m taking care of my kids. I’m not helping with cooking, I’m making dinner. And so on.

        Women are the primary caregivers because men aren’t doing their part, not because they aren’t helping. It is their job to be a partner and an active participating adult as well as the woman’s.

        The kids help sometimes but the man is doing his job.