So, with family anyways, despite all outside appearances Christians don’t ‘hate’ a child who turns away. They still love the kid, but their religion teaches them that if they truly love them, they must do anything to make them come back to their religion - even abuse them hoping the kid breaks down and ‘repents.’ That’s how twisted their doctrine is. It makes them commit atrocities in the name of love. And they’re blind to it, because even when others point out how evil their abuse is, the doctrine teaches them that others will call “‘good’ (abuse) evil and ‘evil’ (acceptance) good.” They truly believe they’re helping. They believe that if their child is ‘going to hell,’ any amount of trauma and abuse with even a chance of preventing that is justified. It’s not the people, it’s the ideology. The very fundamentals of Christianity justify literally anything to convert a soul. It is fundamentally evil, all the way back to the moment Jesus died. Anything that claims to be better is no longer Christianity.
My source: The story of my life. A story of abuse and pain, of seeing my loving mother become a monster when I left the church. Forcing me to leave my unbelieving friends. Controling every part of my mind and beliefs to ‘save’ me. And seeing the atrocities that I committed under that same doctrine, and how I was blinded by it.
This needs to end. Christianity must end. The problem isn’t the people - it’s the doctrine. And until the moment that Christan doctrine is destroyed forever, it will never cease to turn more innocent, loving people - even my own mother - into monsters blinded by their evil.
They will never accept that there is no way but theirs. And I’m still living through it, for one year until I have the means to leave. But yes, I will try to be kind. Thanks for the reminder, I forget at times. It’s easy to forget that the only thing that makes us any better is respect and acceptance - something their doctrine could never let them give.
But at the same time, the doctrine needs to be destroyed. That’s the almost paradoxical puzzle - ruthlessly slaughtering and burning the doctrine, while treating the people trapped within with kindness and love.
How might that be done? They’re taught to resist any arguments against that doctrine from the time they first understand their mother’s voice. That’s why they defend their power over their children so fiercly - why they must be the sole influence on their children. As much as I loved my classical homeschooled education, it was laced with doctrinal poison.
The only way I can see is to regulate against teaching religion in any form of education, and to require some education - even just a few classes per semester - outside of the home ‘bubble’ that these religious groups create.
I am strongly in favour of classical education - homeschooling even - but ‘Christian’ (or any other doctrine) textbooks, curriculums, and education must end.
One thing that might help is to get involved in local organizations if possible, or reach out for support. There’s lots of organizations online that may help you to navigate dealing with relationships. Education is key. But the institutional structures that support religion is vast.