Same for men. I definitely would’ve ended up in a better place if I hadn’t wasted my time chasing women & their attention & approval when I was in my 20s.
Well, women don’t say random shit at you on the streets, for example. I’m a man so I don’t have the fortune, but I’m sure there’s a lot more they have to deal with.
I think poster is just making it clear that in the context of this post (and life) women are subjected to strange men’s “advice” and are in fact pressured by street strangers to conform to male desire, a phenomenon men are not subjected to. You’re comment didnt explicitly diminish that fact, but i can see how someone reading it might feel the need to clarify the difference
Are you sure men are not subjected to something similar? Granted, no random women came to me on the street, but I received all kinds of weird “advice” by distantly acquainted women as a young man, which in all honesty also felt like “pressuring me to conform to female desire”
I’m not trying to play gotcha or nothin but yeah you agree that’s not the same thing. If you want more info, don’t take my random-ass internet stranger’s word for it, ask any of your female friends how very different their experience is to yours.
And tone check yo, I’m not saying your comment is bad or that it’s bad to try and empathize with the female experience by comparing it to your own as a male. That’s kinda how empathy works, yeah? But if you don’t have that specific experience it’s important to understand you’re only guessing.
Its just as important, especially cuz we’re on the net to make sure that’s what a commenter is doing, trying to empathize, because tone is tough to gauge in this forum and both bad actors and ignorance abound.
Same for men. I definitely would’ve ended up in a better place if I hadn’t wasted my time chasing women & their attention & approval when I was in my 20s.
Well, women don’t say random shit at you on the streets, for example. I’m a man so I don’t have the fortune, but I’m sure there’s a lot more they have to deal with.
yes they do?
Ok?
I think poster is just making it clear that in the context of this post (and life) women are subjected to strange men’s “advice” and are in fact pressured by street strangers to conform to male desire, a phenomenon men are not subjected to. You’re comment didnt explicitly diminish that fact, but i can see how someone reading it might feel the need to clarify the difference
Are you sure men are not subjected to something similar? Granted, no random women came to me on the street, but I received all kinds of weird “advice” by distantly acquainted women as a young man, which in all honesty also felt like “pressuring me to conform to female desire”
I’m not trying to play gotcha or nothin but yeah you agree that’s not the same thing. If you want more info, don’t take my random-ass internet stranger’s word for it, ask any of your female friends how very different their experience is to yours.
And tone check yo, I’m not saying your comment is bad or that it’s bad to try and empathize with the female experience by comparing it to your own as a male. That’s kinda how empathy works, yeah? But if you don’t have that specific experience it’s important to understand you’re only guessing.
Its just as important, especially cuz we’re on the net to make sure that’s what a commenter is doing, trying to empathize, because tone is tough to gauge in this forum and both bad actors and ignorance abound.
Ah. Yeah, I didnt mean to diminish anything. Kind of annoying people are so combative, tho.