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The original was posted on /r/truscum by /u/ghostiesyren on 2024-11-13 15:21:13+00:00.

So I was reflecting a bit on how my parents reacted when I came out. My dad was immediately accepting there was some pushback here and there but now he’s cool. For him it was like gaining another son apparently. He got to relive the ‘milestones’ of being a dad to a son in some ways. Taking me to ‘manly’ stores like Rural King to pick out clothes, teaching me basic things about construction and teaching me about firearms. Basic guy stuff that he didn’t think I was interested in before. He’s still is pretty cool with it. To be fair my dad had lgbt friends when I was growing up. Not in a token way, but he just liked them as people. He didn’t really care about that stuff. That may be why he was so okay about me transitioning.

My mother, either due to her narcissistic tendencies or due to the fact she lost a daughter, initially, took it well. When she thought she could use it as points to ‘prove’ she was progressive and tolerant. When behind the scenes she was reeling from me coming out and never accepted it. Throws my transsexuality in my face whenever it’s convenient and so on. For her it was like me dying and her still holding onto a ghost.

Most women want a daughter and most men want a son. I guess that’s why my parents reacted the way they did. That’s my hypothesis at least.