You’ve been really active here! That’s great. Nice to have people shaking up the place.
Now, to your question: pissed off and dangerously on the edge of blowing, with no apparent reason.
Thanks qyron! How longs the pissed off feeling been going on?
Not long enough to be worrisome.
That’s good. Lean on us, we got you
I’m mixed.
I’ve had depression off and on, it cleared up early last week but came back this weekend.
I went to a friend’s and we went for a walk and played Uno with their kids and it made me feel a bit better, but I spent most of the weekend just laying in bed.
I’m stressed about Canada’s election. And the tariff mayhem and how that’s going to affect my job. I tried diversifying my finances, but seeing my assets drop hurts.
My wife is starting a new diet with her gym, so she’s doing all the cooking lately and honestly I’m missing that creative outlet.
I don’t know, just a lot of headwinds right now. I’ve been very lucky, but it’s rough out there.
You’ve got a lot going on from day to day food to finances to the bigger picture of politics. It’s bound to ground you down.
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That’s not easy! Sometimes the smallest thing can be the biggest mountain. You’ve done great 👌
I’m so fucking tired
I’m at the point even my anger and sadness got bored and fucked off and I just don’t really feel or think at all.
And that’s what’s fucking scary to me.
Being desperate and sicker was worse physically and exhausting, but at least I believed in something. Now I just don’t fucking care.
Remember when Elmo asked and everyone dumped their collective grief him? Ya, it’s only gotten far worse.
you can’t make me, and, doesn’t matter anyhow. Reading the news is enough to give you depression, and no amount of sunny disposition is going to make the next four years of existing any less shit. Assuming it ends in four years at all.
Can‘t recover from the death of my cat in october. It totally devastated me.
I feel you, my cat died August ‘23 and I am still having a rough time. I have since adopted two kittens and I love them both so much, but I really miss Polly.
I hope it gets better for you.
If I wouldn‘t have adopted the little jinx i probably would have died. Nontheless, i miss Fenya dearly.
Thanks. I guess it gets a bit easier over time
If you have some spare time, you might try visiting an animal shelter, just to give the animals there some playtime and affection. We are much longer-lived than our pets, and it’s our responsibility to make sure they have the best lives possible. I bet you did that for your kitty, and they were thankful for it.
She was my best buddy for 24 years. I‘ve rescued a kitten already and my now older cat is the best mother she could be.
The next shelter is a bit far away, though, so i am not that often there as i used to be
Discovered my young daughter is self harming so really not great at the moment.
When I was 13, my parents discovered that my younger sister was self harming and even wrote a suicide note (and that she might be closetedly lesbian). All they did was yell at her, berate her, force her to cut up the note and blame social media. Somehow at that age I was more mature than two adults who decided to fucking have children. Though thats the average in arabia I guess…
Please don’t be mad at her, instead help and show that you love and care for her.
That’s a really helpless situation to be in. She’s your daughter, she’s someone whose safety is hugely important to you, and she’s hurting herself so badly. How are you going to try and handle it?
I think we have gone through all the emotions this past week! Speaking to people it seems like we caught it early on compared to others but it is still terrifying.
Yes it is. Stay strong
Awful, depressed, worthless, financially ruined. Currently sitting on my friends couch after sleeping here because my wife and I had the worst fight we ever had over the past 2 days, and I don’t we will recover as we both decided it’s probably best to just part ways but not sure how to make that work yet due to kids and schedules. This is a fun weekend…
I lost the person I felt was my soulmate about 8 years ago to mental illness after she fell down the conspiracy theory well, and eventually changed from a happy healthy empathetic liberal to a MAGA type person in just a couple years. It was, in some ways, worse than losing them to death.
But 8 years (and a lot of therapy) later I feel like life is bright, and I look forward to each day now. I don’t mean to say “Hey just wait the better part of a decade and you’ll feel great”, just that we are resilient and even though things feel terrible for you right now, no matter which way it goes you will eventually feel good again. Stay strong.
And let me give you some unsolicited advice in case you do end up splitting. Try not to be mean or vindictive to your future ex-partner during the process. Not for their sake (they will be out of your life soon), but yours. I regret and am ashamed of things I said and did during my divorce.
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Not great.
Last night my house flooded and I’m still cleaning up water and nasty shit. Everything smells like piss.
It triggered a fight over the fact that I still don’t have a full time job despite months of looking, and we are stuck in this place until I find something better than 3rd party labor.
My vehicle is leaking gasoline while running and the shocks are fucked but I can’t afford to fix it. My wife’s vehicle needs transmission work.
Also… gestures wildly around the US
Depression is a bitch and I don’t have insurance to go to a therapist or get my broken tooth fixed.
So yeah. Not great.
Damn dude, life is kicking you while you’re down, I’m sorry. Keep your head held high whenever you can.
Actually very awesome today. Going to a protest with a new friend. Exciting!
Tired, anxious, depressed, feel like shit in general. Declined an invitation to play boardgames with some old friends this weekend because I feel tired and anxious and depressed and overwhelmed and now I have more anxiety and guilt because I feel like I should have gone and I will further lose contact with them over this and they will hate me now.
It gets like that sometimes and it’s so hard. Dragging yourself through life is exhausting, and it means we don’t have energy for seeing friends. Cancelling plans comes with it’s own problems though, that sets off all sorts of thoughts. How are you trying to manage it today?
To be honest I’m not really managing much, just been alternating between staring at the wall and staring at sports. I might go for a short run later on the treadmill.
I hear you. Going for a run is 100% a good idea it’ll help
I did go for a run and it did help a little.
Great well done
Speaking as someone with anxiety, try not to predict what others feel. You’re likely going to be wrong, and never in a good way. It’s not your responsibility to guess what others are feeling, it’s their responsibility to tell you. Always assume the most neutral opinion from others, and only change that if they say otherwise.
If you need to stay alone to recuperate, then go all-in on it. Let your friends know that you had a bout of anxiety. If you’re worried about them being upset, then not giving them a reason won’t help that.
I wish you the best, and please ask if you have any questions that I might be able to help with.
During Covid, I picked up the guitar again, having given it up decades ago. I didnt expect to play gigs or anything, I just wanted to use the quarantine opportunity to do something positive, and I chose music, over writing a book, learning a language, etc.
Almost five years later, my guitar playing has gotten pretty good, upper intermediate level, and I am good enough to entertain myself, which is all I ever wanted.
What I hadn’t expected was how much of an improvement it would make on my mental health. After being energized by my improving skills, I realized that my mood and self-esteem and confidence were significantly elevated. I am proud of my progress, even if nobody else hears it.
I also realized that I think I’ve been operating under a low-grade depression for a long time, perhaps my entire life. I’ve never addressed it because I thought that was just what life felt like. Once I had a closer look at how much better I could feel, i realized that I haven’t felt “right” for a long time, maybe never. I’m still not sure I know what “right” really feels like.
Now that America has officially gone to Hell, I’m extremely worried about the future (I have a history degree, and am very knowledgeable about politics and history, and know where all of this is leading), but daily, sometimes hourly, doses of music are helping me cope.
I did the same with guitar. Stopped playing nearly 20 years ago and picked up again during Covid. Probably one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It gives me an outlet I didn’t have before, and I’ve put so much into it with practice and lessons that I’m better than I’d ever have thought I’d be.
Like you, I know enough to entertain myself and that’s perfect. Sometimes I’ll just pick it up and play along with new songs I hear and it still surprises me when I can do that well.
I’ve heard that there was a big guitar boom during Covid, but I’ll bet at least 75% moved on. We’re the survivors, and all the better for it. In a couple years, there will probably be a big used market of barely used Covid guitars.
I just wish Lemmy had one single decent guitar forum. Reddit had a bunch, and I was really active in them, but alas, now that they’ve gone MAGA and purged any dissenters, all I can do is lurk, which is frustrating.
We need to revive the sleepy guitar forums on Lemmy.
Yeah I relate a lot with you on that. But I never managed to actually keep at it. I’ve tried 5 times to pick up the guitar again after giving it up, and always failed.
That didn’t really improve my mental health and self-esteem, ngl. So yeah, all props to you!
Yeah, I get it, guitar is a really hard instrument. I wasn’t starting from scratch during Covid. I was a professional musician as a teen, playing other instruments, and picked up the basics of guitar. I put it aside when I went to college for music history, and then spent many years in the classical music biz.
So I have a very strong music background to draw from. When I picked it up again, it felt like Id never held a guitar before, but I still rembered the chord shapes, and I still had a good grip of music theory. I also have enough musical experience coaching professional musicians that I didn’t need a teacher, I knew what I needed to do to learn this.
On top of all that, the best teachers in the world are on YouTube, so anything I couldn’t figure out on my own, I had plenty of resources to consult.
Despite all of that, the real key was establishing a solid daily practice routine, something I couldn’t do when I was young, in school, working in a record store, partying with friends, and chasing girls. Here’s what I tell new players about practice:
Put your guitar on a stand next to your bed, so it’s the first and last thing you see every day. Play it for about 20 minutes when you first get up, and 20 minutes before going to bed. Then find another 20 minutes sometime during the day.
That will give you 60 minutes per day of sharply focused practice. If you were to practice once a day for an hour, you’d be focused for the first 20 minutes, then your mind starts to wander for the additional 40 minutes. By breaking it up, every minute is focused practice, and you’ll progress much faster. It also gives your fingertips a chance to rest after 20 minutes.
Also, if you miss a session, you only miss one, and you’ll still get 2 others that day. If you only do one long session per day, and you miss it, you miss an entire day of practice, not just 1/3.
If all you do is practice once a day, then you really only get one serious 20 minute practice block each day. So if you do three twenty minute sessions a day, its like jamming 3 days of practice in a single day. At the end of a week, you’ve had 21 days of practice instead of 7. Obviously, your progress will be much, much faster.
So give it a sixth try, but use my practice regimen, and hopefully it will stick this time. Good luck!
Not OK. Did not sleep well, again. Anxiety and frustrations work-related which will impact my home life. I need to rest.
Not sleeping is hard, you need that to function. How’s your sleep hygiene ?
Terrible. A lot of my sleep issues can be traced to my work schedule, which is something I’m trying to improve but my boss is actively working to make worse for me.
When anxiety hits, as it does with unresolved conflict, the negative effects compound exponentially. I can’t fix the root cause right now: I work too late for my well being and I can’t fix that with an incompetent authoritarian at the helm.
Yes it’s just rough for you right now. That’s not good
