Been doing this for a long time actually. I don’t really use porn for masturbating. I find it way more relaxing to just enjoy the moment. Usually an orgasm is not at all hard to achieve any more (even at my age), so it usually happens. But if it doesn’t, that’s OK too.

I’ve been doing this too lately. I noticed that I love how horny I get after a few days without orgasm, so I started intentionally avoiding it. At the same time I realized how much my masturbation habits had been about getting rid of an urge more than experiencing pleasure. By avoiding porn and not expecting orgasm, I can focus more on enjoying the sensations.

For me it’s been fun to involve my partner in it too. Having sex or getting a blowjob without getting to cum can be so delightfully frustrating!

Yep I know what you mean. I’ve been doing this lately.

Mainly because I want to watch porn and enjoy masturbating to it, but not loose my drive to have sex with my partner later. So I’ll jerk it for a bit then stop when I feel I’m getting close.

I’m really into edging which I know isn’t exactly what you’re talking about, but I definitely understand and enjoy the experience.

I think there’s a wide range of things that people view as different sexual experiences that are actually a lot more related than we’d like to admit. I mean edging/gooning, chastity, abstaining from masturbation (nofap?), or more light teasing or relaxed enjoyment like you’re talking about. There’s probably more similarities in what people want to get out of these experiences than there are differences.

There can be a big difference in motivation and fantasy behind it. For example, some people want/need/enjoy femdom, or at least a fantasy of being controlled. Some people look at the orgasm in more of a “negative” light, like “I need my orgasm denied”, and really get into feeling the desperate feelings. Others, maybe more like yourself, put more emphasis in a “positive” light on the physical/psychological things that they feel, and enjoying a more gradual buildup.

(not putting judgement with positive/negative terminology, just trying to categorize things)

Also even people who say they’re really into “edging” don’t spend all their time at the edge, they may edge several/multiple times, but it’s too intense to hold for a long period of time and most of the session will be sort of low-key buildup.

Ultimately though, your body doesn’t really care what reasons you’re holding back. Physically and psychologically you’ll feel more easily aroused, and interested in sex. Personally that’s what I’m going for – I love feeling almost like a horny teenager, aroused at even the slightest glimpse or thought. And I love how sensitive I become down there. But what I’m trying to say is: there isn’t really a right or wrong answer here. You’re absolutely free to enjoy or masturbate however you like, and however makes you the most happy. And there’s no rule that says that you must orgasm or not.