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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/Electronic-Buy7951 on 2023-10-07 08:42:32.

I’m a (30F) with a (30M). We’ve been in a committed relationship for 2 years, not married, and live under the same roof. He has the typical arrangement where he gets his twins every other weekend (4 days a month).

A few months ago, he was put off work for at least 12 weeks until they can figure out where the pain is coming from. He will be losing his short term disability and his insurance if they can’t find another position for him in the company that isn’t physical.

He is a great father and always pays his support, including half of all medical bills and activities his kids are in. I asked him to speak with the mother of his children and let her know until he gets back to work, the amount he can contribute toward the unnecessary extracurricular activities will be significantly less. Especially when between the two of them it’s around $300 to $500 a month not including basic child support.

He hasn’t yet spoke with her yet…

Before I talk to him about this…, am I the asshole for not wanting to pay HIS child support and their extracurricular activities? I have no problem paying the other household bills… but I’m not ok with this. I didn’t knock her up.

Thanks in advance.