Welllllllllll, usually not quite. There’s not much that can happen to truly fuck up a life in an irredeemable way. You can make choices that prevent you from being able to reach best outcomes A, B, or C, but at basically any point you can still achieve good outcome X, Y, or Z.
Seriously. It’s easy to look at where you’re at today and think it’ll never get better, but 60 years is a long ass time. It only takes one or two good/lucky decisions in all that time to start to seriously turn your life around.
I’m only 30, but looking at 20 year old me is like looking at a completely different person - a person that absolutely thought he had fucked up right out the gate. Just keep living your life the best you can, and you’ll get there in time.
Well, it’s still totally possible to irredeemably fuck your life by 20, although you’d have to make some fairly extreme decisions.
I mean we’re talking ignore every piece of good advice you’ve ever been given and start shooting fucking heroine or something, extreme.
Such as how? Like even if you’ve been sentenced to life in prison, as long as you’re not put in a supermax there are still ways to wind up with some ok outcomes. You can earn some pretty decent privileges like a music player and a tv, you can become a big reader, you can earn a law degree, you can use that law degree to help get innocent wrongly convicted people out of prison, etc.
Yeah, I was way down in a hole at 30. Things are unrecognizably better 15 years later. I didn’t miss out on any dreams, because I didn’t have any. I probably would’ve been worse off if I’d had a more successful first (hopefully) quarter.
Tell that to the laundry list of people that I knew that OD’d and died from fentanyl.
Also, I’ve seen people burn too hot as students and then have a breakdown and now work as servers and other odd jobs.
Not if you ragequit
Or, if you get garbage parents or no parents or born in a war or something, you don’t even get any say in totally fucking it up. It’s already fucked for you.
Oh. It me.
Yeah, that’s by design. You’ve to replay at least three times to unlock the true good ending.
Alas, it seems to be a matter of luck. And, how whatever country deals with people who make wrong choices in their lives.
When it comes to crime and imprisonment - some countries have humane conditions, teach prisoners life skills and give opportunities to study a job, to give a chance to becoming a functioning part of the society. And some countries automatically kill or torture them, or leave them to rot while other prisoners harm them.
Define fuck up. If you mean you haven’t met your perception of societally imposed life goals, then fuck that. Part of life is accepting that society’s impositions are bullshit. Life your life, discover what is important to you and pursue that.
