It seems that every community takes anything said about gender dysphoria that isn’t calling it great and beautiful and awesome, as transphobia, and the mods delete comments.
I’m wondering if there is a community for people dealing with dysphoric children that don’t get offended if something is said in honest questioning and honest debate, that doesn’t toe the politically correct line?
It’s impossible to find real help online because everyone wants to make it political. It may be political in the macro, but the micro isn’t political, and there should be room for all opinions and debate, especially when the goal is to help the person afflicted and the family to grow and be healthy in their relationships.
If you’re looking for actual discussion with people on both sides of the fence, I don’t think that exists anywhere. In here you mostly get actual trans people (who understandably get easily offended) and their allies (who less understandably get easily offended for that first group). It all degenerates into something that resembles a virtual inquisition session. You’d get more done by going to a Hamas meeting and asking “hey about this Allah thing, are you sure it’s actually for real?”
FWIW, if somebody wants to found such a place for actually discussing sensitive topics like that one, I’ll be happy to join in as an unironical enlightened centrist.
It’s not even people being offended that creates the rules a lot of the time. If you don’t have strict and clear cut rules, it’s going to eat up a ton of mod time trying to keep out trolls and people asking the same things repeatedly in bad faith. I liked the split that was on Reddit between an asktransgender group and the groups meant for community.
For me though, I’ve just never wanted to be in that particular kind of place as a trans person. It takes a lot of energy to constantly answer the unintentionally offensive and invasive questions from all the people in your family, job, and just general day to day life. It’s hard to find people who consistently can and want to give time to helping slowly warm people up to the same basic facts that they could find on their own.