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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • While I agree with this sentiment, IME it is very rarely intended to silence discussion of women’s issues, and is usually related to hyperbolic statements like “men are trash” or protest signs like “not all men but always a man” (both from a lemmy post I partook in “attempting to silence” last month.) Imo it’s reasonable to take offense, disagree, and express both of those feelings wherever I see it to call it out. I am not trying to silence women, I just want them to treat me with the same respect I treat them, if they don’t want me to say “all women are trash” because two women have literally raped me (except for the definition of rape in my area calls for penetration specifically, so legally forcing me to have sex with them was at most “sexual assault,” which while I’m mentioning it fuck that bullshit, but I digress), then they shouldn’t get to call me trash because someone who is not me, I’m not friends with, and who I’ve never even met, raped them either. I, as a male rape victim, am expected to be able to separate “those women” from “all women” lest I be an “incel” (though, by the definition of incel I think being raped twice negates that alone, yet they still call you one for being a victim and mad about being lumped in with the aggressors for the crime of having the same genitals as their aggressor), and all I’m asking for is the same in return. We can stand with victims and against abusers, it doesn’t have to be male victims vs woman victims vs abusers battle royale.

    /rant.

    Sorry, I happen to care about this topic a lot, being personally effected and all lol.


  • Tbf, the times I usually see it “hijacked” it’s because of signs like “not all men but always a man” completely pretending that male rape victims don’t exist, or comments like “men are trash” under the post. If I ever in my life saw a post about male victims that said “women are trash” or had comparable signs and women complained, I would see that as totally justified.





  • That word may be ordinary in Spanish, but something tells me (the complete lack of other Spanish words, as well as the context) that in this case it was meant in the “archaic” form.

    Also idk if it’s “archaic at worst,” “at worst” it is still a slur in many contexts. Like, you can talk about The Negro League in historical context referring to baseball and be completely fine, but you absolutely cannot go up to someone and say “What up my Ne–o” (gonna bleep that one, but leave enough context so you can tell it’s not intended to be the other one.) “You are an ignorant stupid ne–o” seems to fit squarely in the context of slur to me and imo its use here is in bad taste at best and frankly I think it is racist.

    Not that I disagree with hating trump, I just think hating trump so hard you become racist isn’t really a good solution to the problem, and the church could probably rework that sign.