While I definitely agree that routine checkups like that should be happening (and especially for people who just got their licenses or are 60+) at least for a car dominant culture like the US I can see that being a huge burden both on safety organizations/DMVs and on the drivers themselves. :/

Basic BAC calculator.

Pace yourself when drinking so that you are metabolizing the drinks fully before starting a new one. If you still experience hangover symptoms the next day despite being sober, you may have an issue with metabolizing but probably aren’t allergic, since being allergic outright to alcohol would result in more immediate symptoms.

I’m kind of terrible with tofu and thick sauces; even with extra firm tofu that I’ve pressed and frozen/unfrozen, I manage to make it crumble about 90% of the time, so this is always wizardry to me.

Granted, I don’t deep fry it because it’s such a huge pain to deep fry so that’s probably my problem…

Do you think that seitan would hold up well with this? I’d think it’d mimic chicken well, while the tofu is moreso the paneer replacement.

It is definitely tough to shed that sense. Growing up knowing I was “weird” and therefore bad (no, it was just undiagnosed autism, but I was an adult before I knew that and that element of myself had long since been solidified) meant that if I wanted people to like me then I had to give more than they did in order to just break even, which is exhausting and unfair, especially since I have a tendency to read neutral expressions as negative ones.

One thing that has helped me is the realization that that happy feeling I get when someone came to me for help and I helped them? Goes both ways for good people. And it sucks for them, too, if you’re suffering and they could help but you were afraid to ask. Having standards is both a defense of yourself and a means of determining which people should stay prominent in your life.

Did anyone check if the “Contact Us” page included the login details beneath each person listed?

“When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people.”

“The brutally honest care more about the brutality than the honesty.”

“Reasonable people can disagree reasonably.”

I can’t live up to those ideals but it would be cruel to myself and others to stop trying to.

Those are all good points! Certainly some of it is growing pains, but it would make for a better entry point to have a walkthrough upon signup. That could be true of apps, as well.

It’s all a balancing act, isn’t it? Between managing reputation and the increased trust/context it brings, allowing for a broader range of opinions (and more contentious ones) versus encouraging consensus within a community, and managing user expectations. How do you keep out trolls and chan-culture without encouraging fearful bean counting and a smoothening of the many bumpy opinions into what is widely perceived as acceptable?

What works for a suddenly engorged, amorphous and non-profit driven organization like Lemmy is going to be different from what Reddit can do from a top-down perspective. I’ve always held paid actors to a higher standard than unpaid ones, so I’m willing to rely more on my own internal sorting of value. Everyone has experienced a time where they or someone else made a good point that was ignored in favor of the popular person’s more mundane one, and I think that that’s just a part of humanity that you can’t kick out without establishing some sort of external arbiter.

I don’t know the answer to it, just that a simpler system that one disagrees with is easier to navigate than one that’s more complex.

You can use an ingredient that soaks up the olive oil. Eggplant and mushrooms will do that, and both will give it more body, while mushrooms add to the umami quality.

Depending on how blasphemous you want to get, you can add soaked, ground up cashews or avocado to add in drier sources of plant fat. Heck, what about artichoke hearts?

Oh, and of course, nowadays there’s meat substitutes like Impossible/Beyond/what have you, which are plenty fatty and still hold up to getting fried.

Besides sorting by age or number of replies, how else would you sort comments, and is that any better than using user generated scores?

You can change that to New and hide read comments. Or just keep scrolling and read comments as they are. Organization that can be changed is different from not even being able to comment.

It’s the lack of awareness that gets me. You’re operating a 2+ ton vehicle at speeds significantly faster than humans can reach by themselves, amongst a group of other people doing the same, and you figure it’s okay to be unpredictable?

Unfortunately that’s not something you can really test for, that blasé attitude towards interacting with traffic, since most early drivers are going to be on their best behavior, and this is developed after years of getting away with it (or NOT but somehow still doing it?).

Exactly; the main point of karma for Reddit doesn’t apply here, and there are options in apps to just show total score.

I use downvotes for two things: the person was, needlessly, a jackass, regardless of whether they’re right, or they’re wrong in such a way that I don’t have the energy/ability to sort that out (or just trolling). I’m sure others do the same for me, and that information should be available to others.

Setting them up to understand how to navigate in a world filled with junk food by easily making filling, nutritious food in a fun way goes a lot farther than just abstinence, anyways.

Tag yourself I’m the Trough of Disillusionment.

Yeah I feel you on this one. It’s like my first reaction is to raise my hackles, not just because “CHANGE???” but also that a new idea means I Fucked Up by not considering all options or foreseeing it.

Which is silly and unfair of me. I make errors all the time, and I can’t possibly foresee everything, and when I offer up ideas it’s because I see a problem and want to fix it so things get better.; I’m not thinking about shoving someone’s nose in their failure to be omniscient so why should I be so concerned they’re doing the same?

One thing that helps is the knowledge that we don’t stop thinking about something when we stop consciously thinking about it, so my slow embrace of an idea after hours or days makes sense; my mind kept it on the stovetop, just on the back burner. It’s not fickleness, it’s consideration, and the knowledge that I do that can help give me the confidence to say, in the moment, “I’ll get back to you on that”.

Oh this is very familiar.

I think this is an aspect of AD(H)D; you know you have something to say, but you’re not sure you can hold onto it AND what the other person is saying at the same time.

In my case, a lot of the time I just don’t process conversation at the same speed that other people do. I like text for a reason: I can marshal my thoughts, edit comments, and see what I’m responding to instead of relying on my memory which is…poor.

At the same time, there’s the notion that different communicative means produces different communication styles. A phone call is not a face to face talk is not an email is not a letter is not a DM, so each should differ according to the medium. Deep, insightful comments might lend more towards written conversations, partly because they’re hard to say in the moment and because they’re hard to react to.

Thank you so much for the detailed writeup/recipe; maybe even I can follow it. XD

This looks like an easier version of a sauce recipe for cold soba noodles, which uses tahini as the base. I usually make up several batches of that and then freeze it to use for later, so I’ll see if that works for this one (after trying it as is).

Cumin is an interesting addition: I tend to associate that with Mexican dishes. But then I always associated cinnamon with sweetness before trying Indian food; trying to expand my palate can be hard when I’ve already formed strong Food Opinions.

Again, thank you!

Which is so silly when you think about it: “this tire expert isn’t a REAL mechanic”. Okay…and?? We need both.