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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • I used to be really into cosplay and the cosplay community and these kinds of questions about makeup and skin color would come up regularly. And without fail, the consensus always ends up being that it’s a bad idea. The rule tends to be that you shouldn’t change your skin color unless it’s a fantasy color like purple, green, etc. It very likely will be offensive to someone. If you’re okay with offending people, that’s your choice to make. But if you do this, especially at a convention or if you post it online, there will very likely be people who are bothered by it. The fact that you felt the need to ask usually means that there will be at least a few people bothered by this.

    This is a bit of an atypical situation though since you’re black and you’re portraying the character as black. You’re not portraying a different race than your own. I think that’s what bothers most people. Especially if it’s white people mimicking a different race.

    But although this isn’t mimicking a different race, it is mimicking a real skin condition that people can be born with and it can be a struggle for them. People may see that as insensitive to their struggle.

    Personally, I don’t think your costume idea is a major offense, and you probably won’t get too much backlash for it, especially considering that you are portraying yourself as your own race. But some people will definitely see it as an offense. If you don’t post it online, and you’re not going to a huge convention, it might not be an issue for you at all.

    But if I was a person with vitilligo, I might be a lot more upset by it, especially considering that the character is a horror character meant to be scary to look at. Imagine having this disorder and running into someone at a convention who is wearing the thing you’re insecure about to look scary. It might be a bit hurtful and make them feel worse about their condition if it’s something they struggle with or have been bullied for.

    Unrelated to your issue, but I saw another comment in this thread saying that portraying black characters as a cosplay is different than doing Vaudeville-style blackface, but most people in the cosplay community would disagree with that. Nobody has a problem with people playing characters who are a different race than the cosplayer, but the consensus tends to be that you shouldn’t change your skin color to do it. It’s heavily discouraged. “I can’t take off my race at the end of the day” is something I’ve heard from black cosplayers a lot when this discussion comes up.

    I’ve seen white people cosplay black characters in full makeup at conventions and it doesn’t go well. A white woman cosplaying Michonne From The Walking Dead in full makeup was the talk of a con I went to once. Lots of “oh my god, did you see that? Why would she think that’s a good idea?” Changing skin color makeup is definitely a big deal in the cosplay community, and a lot of people have zero tolerance for it, even for this kind of thing.

    Anyway, this has gotten very long. I’m not going to tell you what I think you should do, but I wanted to share my experiences with this. I don’t think your intentions are hurtful. But if you choose to do the costume, you need to be okay with the fact that it will very likely offend or be hurtful to some people who see any skin tone changing as completely unacceptable. Consider where you’ll be wearing it and the kind of people who might be there and make a decision from there. I don’t think it’s really very offensive, but I’m a white woman and I don’t have vitiligo so I can’t speak for everyone. I have a few mixed feelings on the issue, because it’s complicated. But personally I would rather avoid doing something potentially hurtful, even if it’s unlikely to happen, than risk upsetting someone or making them feel bad about themselves because of what I chose to do.

    I hope that helps you make your decision, and I wish you good luck no matter what you decide.



  • NekoRogue@slrpnk.netto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneBiology rule
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    2 months ago

    As a woman who is bothered by the “females” thing, “female humans” doesn’t sound bad to me. It’s because “female” is used as an adjective here. It’s the same reason “black women” sounds fine, but “blacks” sounds bad. It’s reducing someone to their gender only, as if they’re not humans, too. It feels otherimg.







  • NekoRogue@slrpnk.nettocats@lemmy.worldSo squishy beds are redundant
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    4 months ago

    I think some people just want to look at cute photos of cats without thinking about negative things. I can understand that. But if I posted a photo of my cat exhibiting what could be a symptom of a serious problem that I wasn’t aware of, I would want someone to tell me. I know OP said this is a repost, but I still think it’s important for anyone who loves their cats to be able to tell if something is wrong. This doesn’t look like normal cat behavior to me.





  • When I learned some people can’t watch something with subtitles I was so confused, because ADHD auditory processing issues mean I really can’t hear without subtitles. If I don’t have subtitles on my mind wanders off without me and I have to keep rewinding because I missed something. I remember buying a ticket to Pan’s Labyrinth in theatres a long time ago and being baffled when the person in the ticket booth warned me that it had subtitles. Took waaaay too long for me to get diagnosed.





  • NekoRogue@slrpnk.nettoFunny@sh.itjust.worksHehe
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    7 months ago

    UberEats still allows it, I believe. But people abuse that feature by “tip baiting” someone to take their order, then removing the tip after the driver has already spent the time, gas, and effort to deliver it. The driver could spend an hour on the order and only make $2.50 during that time, minus the cost of gas. Happens a lot with orders that are several miles away from the restaurant especially, because no one wants to pay enough to make the trip worth it for the driver.


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    7 months ago

    As a former dasher myself, dashers are expecting that because it needs to be worth the time, cost of gas, and wear and tear on their car to even do the order.

    Doordash only pays around $2.50 per order. If it’s a really bad one (long distance, a slow restaurant that takes up a lot of time, long driving distance) DoorDash might add a dollar or two to get someone to take it. If your food is cold, it’s probably because no one wanted to take your order because it wasn’t worth it, so you have to wait until a driver who doesn’t understand that they’re spending more money than they’re making takes a bad order. Sometimes the restaurant is slow or says an order is ready when it isn’t. The “tip” is pretty much the whole pay for the order. And if the tip is really good, sometimes DoorDash takes part of it without telling anyone.

    Also, DoorDash doesn’t always show you the whole tip amount. There’s a note that says “the actual tip may be higher.” Usually it’s not, but they leave that “maybe” in there to bait you into acceptimg orders that cost more to deliver than you earn.

    There are definitely some shitty drivers. But a lot of people don’t have a choice but to do gig jobs. People with disabilities who need to have flexible schedules because they don’t qualify for disability assistance and they can’t commit to a schedule because of random symptom flare ups. People with criminal records. People with social anxiety. Minorities. People learning English.

    DoorDash is to blame here, not the drivers. They need to call it something other than a “tip.” The suggested “tip” amount should be based on the driving distance, not a percentage of the order cost. And they should pay drivers more out of the “service fees” they get for sitting back doing nothing and letting the app print money for them.

    Let’s blame the right people here.