I was wondering what that smell in the room was, unchecked privilege or weeks without a shower.

Y’all Qaeda

I have a condition called musical anhedonia. There are lots of us out there but we don’t show ourselves because of social stigma against not being able to enjoy music.

Slavery still affects many people today. Here is a link to many examples worth looking into.

Judging by my other comment, Lemmy is definitely going to have a fat people hate sub.

This isn’t related to the article, but I wanted to pick at the ‘benefits of slavery’ question.

I think it’s important to acknowledge the ‘benefits’ of slavery, because it’s important to remember who it benefitted and at who’s expense. To claim that it benefits no one would be to deny the greed and callousness that spawned these human rights abuses.

Slavery in the past has brought massive advantages and benefits to many people today through the accumulation of intergenerational wealth, at the expense of minorities who are still systematically denied access to this wealth. To claim that these benefits don’t exist would be to diminish the scale of issues slavery has brought, and is still bringing, to modern day.

Sure, it’s her fault for making a scene about being weighed.

But when it comes to stigmatizing weight, fat shaming, and creating an environment where fat people feel humanized, many of which are fat because of medical conditions and not the other way around, suddenly it’s no one’s fault.

Not saying that she was in the right, because I don’t think she is at all. I’m saying that the rest of us need to get off our high horses and look at how we treat fat people to begin with.

Edit: Read the sentence in bold again. Christ the fatphobia on Lemmy is real. Hope this triggers enough people to kick start a fat people hate community.

The place looks familiar. Is this from the basement of Etcheverry in Berkeley?

Good is not the enemy of perfect.

This isn’t reddit. People actually get tired of the ‘what’s the sexiest thing you have sexed?’ questions.

This isn’t just a liberal issue, it’s a political climate issue that everyone plays a part in. Liberal ‘smugness’ is a reaction to conservative anti-intellectualism. When their feelings are as good as your facts, there is nothing left to debate.

No matter how simple liberals try to explain things, it doesnt matter. Conservativism has stopped having substance worth debating over when it is no longer about policy, but all about taking the opposite side of every liberal stance.

Liberals are not at fault for the willful ignorance of rural voters. No one starts off being smug and condescending to people. This happens after they’ve tried to explain with civility a thousand times and nothing worked. When ego and pride, not empathy and understanding, are the only things of value to conservatives, liberals resort to contempt. There is nothing left but to resent these people for being pigheaded and small minded. Their world views are set in stone by fox news, and any attempt you make at showing them the truth is deemed as a personal attack.

Young people these days give me hope for the future.

Tldr; Guy meets blind girl. They date. Guy gets his shit together. She proposes. They get married.

I retie both about half the time because often times when one side comes loose, the other side is close to being undone. That way I don’t have to bend down twice in a short time (I have chronic pain).

Sure. I don’t listen to music anyways. Nothing against music, just not my thing.

There’s a lot to the story that I don’t know about so I won’t be making a judgment call. However, teenagers who’ve fallen into the rabbit hole of racism and bullying aren’t easy to pull back. Whatever punishment you decide on, if it’s as harsh as that, you need to be prepared for the possibility that it may completely alienate your kid for the rest of your life.

The point of punishing her shouldn’t be for the sake of punishment, but rather to teach her how to become a better person. You can’t teach her anything if she disappears from your life. I don’t know you or her enough to know how she’ll react.

Personally, I feel that cancelling prom wouldn’t teach teenagers to stop bullying but it will teach them to hate their parents.

As for social media, instead of deleting the account and years of pictures, it would be better to deactivate the account in some way that doesn’t entail permanent deletion, and give it back to her once she has learned her lesson.

I’m going to be blunt. The way you talk about punishment feels like an outlet for your anger. And you every right to be, given what she’s done. But please remember that your daughter’s behavior isn’t set in stone. Take the steps that will actually rehabilitate her, not just punish her. Get her to write an apology letter, get her to post one last time on social media about what she did and issue an apology. Get her to offer an in person apology to the victim or parents (if that’s what they want). Make her write an essay on the impact of bullying.

Whatever you decide to do, get her to stop the hate, not hate you for the rest of her life.

YTA. Not because I don’t agree that bullying is an issue with the name ‘Karen’, but because of how dismissive you are towards the importance of her mother when you were so eager to name your son after your uncle.

Plus her mother died when my wife was a teenager so I have never met this woman so I don’t feel naming my daughter after her.

Her feelings towards her mother are equally valid and the name carries a significance to her that goes beyond what people on social media think. The issue here is that your outright rejection of the name ‘Karen’ instead of coming to a compromise is the problem. In her eyes, you got the name the boy after someone important to you, and she doesn’t get to do the same with the girl. Essentially, it appears as though your feelings towards your uncle matter, and her feelings towards her mother doesn’t.

A good compromise might be to have Karen as a middle name and come up with a different first name, or the other way around. A good way of getting her to see your perspective might be to find someone named Karen (like her mom) and ask them what it has been like for them since the name has been relegated to ‘an entitled woman’. Maybe show her graphs of how the name has declined in popularity because of cyber bullying.

Bra cups are relative to band size. For reference, a 36C is roughly the same volume as a 32E. These are call sister sizes.

I’m tired of guys saying ‘uwu G-cups’ without any context. A 30G is the same as a 42B. Start asking what their band size is ffs. It’s like saying 'she weighs 120’. 120 what? Bags of flour?

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Inb4 some people say ‘women voted with their wallets’, no we did not get to vote.

If you think we get to choose what size of pockets we get for pants that fit us without being uncomfortable, you have not shopped for women’s clothing as a woman, ever.

When women buy pants, it’s like bringing a random metric screw to an imperial hardware store hoping to buy a nut that fits and also all the labels are written in some alien language. The words ‘size 8’ never mean the same thing on any two pairs of pants.

Here are some common issues we encounter. It’s not as simple as ‘oh women are just vain and want pants that are a tight fit’. Women don’t get the nice 33"x34" measurements that men get in spite of needing standardization more than ever, partly because it’s nigh impossible to standardize the wide variety of hip and waist sizes women have and how it changes throughout the month. It’s always ‘these pants are perfect except’:

• My hips are to big to pull these pants up
• My hips are too small and now I have to wear a belt with 2 inches of fabric uncomfortably bunching up in the back
• My legs are too long and my ankles are cold
• My legs are too short and the pants are touching the floor
• My waist is too big so the pants are choking me when I sit down
• My waist is too small and now the same belt problem happens
• There are no belt loops for jeans
• I have PCOS belly and belts hurt to wear
• I have sensory issues and I cannot stand belts of the feeling of bunched up fabric
• The cut is too low and my bum is showing
• The cut is too high and my abdomen is choking
• My thighs are too fat and so I can’t sit down in these jeans without discomfort
• These jeans are too inflexible or small to accommodate days when I am bloating
• There are no pockets
• There are tiny pockets
• There are fake pockets

So please, I beg of you, don’t commit bullshit about how ‘women chose this’. We did not.