same here; “clashes, confusion and sorcery …” sounds like a fantastic title. lol

a quick place to start would be the systemd services that get automatically started when you boot your system. when i did this in the past, i would google each service that was running to determine if i needed it and remove the associated software if i decided that i didn’t.

(since you’re using debian): if it’s a fresh install, it would make more sense to start with a minimal install first like the netinstall image and then pick and chose what you want to put on top of it.

if your issue is that the distro is too bloated: there are other minimalist distro’s out there (some are based on debian) and they’ve already gone through the hassle of figuring out what the bare bones minimum is for fully functional distribution that can serve a viable daily driver.

my ex-mother-in-law and my cousin.

my ex-mil is the tiniest meekest most submissive old fashion mexican woman that i’ve ever known; more so than my own grandmothers; but she recognized that her son was different (gay) when he was a toddler and she warned everyone that she knew that if they had a problem with her son, then they had a problem with her and to air their grievances now so she can know whom to cut out of her and her son’s life. (that’s a big deal for traditionalist mexicans like her family).

growing up, i winced a lot when i saw my aunts, uncles and cousins bully and beat the tar out of my cousin to “toughen the sissy out of him” and “beat the sugar out of his blood” because he was so flamboyantly gay. decades later; those same people fell upon extraordinarily hard times and my cousin took them all in. by doing so: he literally gave the same people who abused him so much that he had to ran away at 14 years old to protect himself from them and then turned around to give them a roof over their heads and food on the table for them when they asked.

i aspire to be both people; it think that they’re the best examples of humanity that i’ve seen with my own eyes.

did you download & try to install it or is it coming from your package manager?

one is a mania with a physical root cause while the other one isn’t.

i don’t have a mac anymore; but this exactly why i’m pursing this project: the last time i did this fedora atomic didn’t exist and i’m likely to encounter that it’s more rock solid than the fedora distros that i used to daily drive with before buying a linux laptop directly from the linux factory.

laptops can be hit or miss because of all the custom proprietary stuff in them.

my experience is the same and that’s why i’m going with a laptop; i wonder if the skills i’ve picked up since the last time i tried are going to help any since they’re the kind of skills that get you paid in the linux world.

Please buy laptops and desktops from tuxedo, system76, framework, etc, and recommend them. They’re doing a great job and do deserve the support.

amen. i’ll continue to buy from them for the things that i depend on (eg low cost personal servers and high end work laptops); but i plan to use a generic low-spec windows laptop for daily driving to teach me what the general linux user experience is like these days since lemmy is showing me that i still get something out of helping other people while i simultaneously get to leverage my knowledge and experience in an arena that’s been enabling my life for these last 3 decades to do so.

it’s bit like the mandates that i get from my management as an individual contributor; but more “WTF” and the “TIL’s” that i get from it makes it more fun for me.

i learned this the hard way when i tried text people in spanish that my father had a great time in the new years party and they were wondering what potatoes had to do with new anal sex experiences. lol

(“mi papa disfruta fiestas de ano nuevo” badly translates to “my potato enjoys new anal gangbangs” without the accents & other punctuation and translates to “my father enjoys news years parties” with the proper punctuation) lol

very much so in addition to creating a new project for myself that’s exciting; that’s a big deal to me because i can’t remember the last time in decades that i felt any excitement over any linux based project.

i learn best by challenging my knowledge and it teaches me where i’m ignorant and i can use that specify which areas to focus my self education.

i’m glad you brought that up; lemmy has taught me that people will use those linux company distros w/o the support and it blows my mind and makes me agree that they should be upstreaming it; i know that system76 does (eventually) and i wonder if tuxedo or anyone else does as well.

all platforms with investors behind it enshitify in the worse ways possible a la reddit, facebook, etc.

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one of the awesome things about buying a linux laptop from a linux company like tuxedo is that you don’t have to worry about things like this since they have paid developers who maintain their own distro to “take care” of things like this and buying one of these linux laptops has made my experience smooth and thought free as a mac user.

it’s a double edge sword however: lemmy has taught me that smooth sailing with linux laptops keeps you unaware of the trouble that lurks beneath the surface and that’s disconnected me from the general linux user experience and has gated me from understanding the common themes and problems they encounter; i’ve started a new linux build and this time i’m going to do it the same way everyone here does, with a windows laptop.

you’re too late! i already know we’re that shitty. lol

yes and i’ve leveraged it along w the stereotype of the entitled american tourist (thanks to my very strong american accent) to get out of most of those episodes.

my anxiety about the future got a lot better once i started looking into how we got into this mess and the whole thing started by watching democracy now before watching pbs, or cbs, or abc, etc.

i barely integrate now as an american; mostly because of my neuro-divergence makes it easy for people to misread me due my intonation and body language and the number episodes of misunderstanding happened MUCH MORE frequently when i visited my potential new home country as a tourist over the last 40ish years.

i automatically qualify for citizenship for the country and i wonder what it’s going to be like if i have to live there because i have both legal and cultural claim to the country; but i’m very much american plus an american that always seems arrogant and callous to everyone no matter how much he tries.

watching my country’s original nature manifest itself so nakedly in examples like the election and this patch makes me wonder what else is going to come back into fashion and how much of it ever actually went away.

and knowing that at least half of my country’s voters would just “go with the flow” while the other half cheers on cheeto-mussolini tells me that i don’t want to know the answer to my question.