• saltesc@lemmy.world
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    For real, people got to let go of “gender” as perceived by societal roles/ideas aka the views strangers and how they identify you.

    Everyone should be rocking dresses in hot times! They are the closest you can get to the pleasantness of rocking it all balls out around the house, but with some sun protection.

    I strongly encourage everyone to take up a sarong. And if you think that’s “faggy” you can take it up with Polynesian warriors. Who, I’ll remind you, were the only ones to actually fucked British Colonialism.

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        I don’t like wearing pants much, usually only when it’s really cold or something formal. At my previous job I was the only person who wore shorts. Some people from the sales department were jealous because they weren’t allowed to wear them.

        I had planned that if they tried to enforce it with us that I’d swap to kilts, and if that was a problem I’d have demanded that the ladies not wear skirts or dresses as that would be sexist.

        I quit before it came to that, but a few more people started wearing shorts before I’d left, and that was enough.

      • HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        do you buy online or local? I am thinking of getting a kilt but when I buy clothing I either buy thrift shop or fancy as fuck.

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      I embraced dresses this summer, and will never look back.

      Just around the house, mind, I’m not that brave. But fucking hell it was SO NICE getting a breeze up around my bits on the hottest days. Walking down stairs, the skirt billowing out and filling with cool air. Shit’s like a drug.

      As a bonus, my wife thinks it’s hot.

      So yeah, I’ve spent a bit on Vinted these past few months buying pretty skirts and dresses and sure, I’ve still got a beard and am kinda hairy, but I feel nice when I’m wearing them.

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        But why? Why should we wear gendered skirts? Why can’t we wear pretty, floaty skirts with bright colours and patterns? Why must all of our clothing be so rugged?

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          Eh, mainly because dicks.

          I’ve worn kilts. Not my thing, it turns out.

          I’ve also had dresses on. Not my thing, but I liked making my friends happy, and I worked as a bouncer at a drag club, so happy sometimes meant dressing the big, hairy weightlifting dude up in pretty dresses. Again, not my thing, but fun anyway.

          But I noticed something pretty damn quick. Even in the kind of sizes I was wearing, even with underwear on, that dick is going to be obvious. With no undies, that thing flopping around under a dress is silly as hell, and very visible. Like, even standing still, it’s obvious, but you try dancing and not having your dong move the fabric.

          But a kilt? Not so much. The pleats of the fabric ones hide your junk better, even when doing something stupid like tossing a log. But leather ones? Good to go entirely. You just don’t show.

          Now, I’m not saying that’s the way it should be. I’m of the mind that there’s nothing harmful about flopping dong at all, and not even hard dong as far as that goes. But I’m not in charge, and there’s a lot of people that would object.

          So, dudes get stuck with heavier fabrics and other tricks to keep the dong from being as visible.

          But, any dude wants to wear some light, pretty stuff? I’d support them. Just might have to tie the dong down

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          That’s the question. It’s the perception of others and conformity of traditional social stereotypes. The more someone has bitten into old gender stereotypes and roles—or just gender in general—the more it’s of concern to them. It’s the same as buying into hair colour, tit size, height, etc. and thinking these define you somehow, based on old sociial opinions of them. But the truth is, it’s all faux. Man-made. Nothing in the universe cares about it except human society. If there were no society, you would not know what these concerns are. You would wear whatever the fuck you want because it’s all about practicality,.not having an identity projected toward stranger’s opinions and society.

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        Nope. I want a pleated skirt with maybe just a little bit of stretchiness to the fabric.

        Buy me one!

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      I have 3 kilts and they’re oddly uncomfortable for me. Maybe I feel vulnerable having my bits swinging in the breeze? I could wear underwear, but that kinda kills the whole idea?

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      I would like to go balls out, but I live with more people than just my wife so that would be rude

      edit: misread, yeah maybe I can talk her into getting me a kilt or sarong I’ve been wanting one