• webghost0101@sopuli.xyz
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    1 year ago

    I can actually use some perspective on this. I am autistic, my partners autistic… our 3yo has all the signs of being the same. But there aren’t any problems so far and we wouldn’t hide the fact. But i believe people should be themselves and children still have a pure chance on discovering themselves, i dont want to confuse that with a label.

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      1 year ago

      I agree with you and am happy for all three of you guys! You and your partner found each other, and your kid has loving and caring parents.

      In retrospect, I think my life would have been much easier and happier if my parents would have told me about my differences early on, while still withholding the diagnosis until I was probably in high school, which I’m assuming is when I would feel comfortable with my differences and needed a name for it.

      As for the differences, it would have helped to compare me to my mother’s style of perceiving and thinking, highlight my strengths and weaknesses in relation to other kids, and then use my strengths to help with confidence and tackle deficiencies stemming from my weaknesses. There would be no shaming, but honest acknowledgement, appreciation, and helpful guidance to make me better prepared for independence and navigating the world autistically.

      I hope that helps! Is there anything else you would like someone’s perspective on, elaboration or discussion?