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  • Here’s the thing… Feeling sexy is, well, hot. Feeling good about yourself, can elicit a physical response. It isn’t uncommon to get an erection or feel aroused when you feel good about yourself, and euphoria can make you feel very good about yourself.

    If you haven’t yet, take a look at genderdysphoia.fyi

    It’s a pretty good read, going through the history and science of gender dysphoria/transgender/two spirit/all that stuff. Good luck on your journey!



  • Did you know: Puberty blockers cause ZERO harm to children, and to reverse the effects, which will allow puberty to continue its course, just stop the medicine!

    This adolescent person that is nearly the age of majority will now have to suffer anxiety, body image issues, potential suicidal and self-harm ideation, and general misery, because the a person decided that what this other person was doing for self care, and to improve their mental health, was wrong. I’m so glad these lawmakers with NO BIAS and MEDICAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL KNOWLEDGE are making laws, that are obviously not for any agenda and hurting nobody in particular, because trans people like me aren’t actually real people and shouldn’t be allowed to be comfortable in their own body.



  • I have recently discovered an invention. It covers blemishes, wrinkles, and has been known to at least one person to help with self-confidence. I call it “makeup.”

    Joking aside, I’m starting to find that incorporating makeup into my morning routine helps with my self-image and confidence. And a little goes a long way! A bit of foundation or concealer, some eyeshadow, some blush, a touch of lipstick, and in 20 or so minutes, you’ll look fabulous! I’ve only applied it to myself a few times, but getting some help from my kids and some new friends has helped me a lot!

    If you aren’t comfortable with makeup yet, I suggest finding a few trusted friends to paint you up and give you some pointers, if you haven’t already!



  • I’m sorry you feel so unsafe you feel the need to carry a weapon. I’m thankful enough that the only transphobia I’ve encountered is from my family, and maybe mild transphobia (intentional misgendering) from some customers and a manager.

    My mom wanted to bring my grandmother over the other day to “play board games,” but it felt weird. I declined, she wanted to talk, I felt like nothing has changed.

    She makes me feel emotionally unsafe, I realized. With her difficulty accepting my children for years, and now me, it is making it very difficult for me to want to try to repair our relationship. Her husband has banned me from her house, cuz I said her actions were that of a bad parent and person.

    All this word vomit/salad to say, I relate. At least to difficulties from your family. All I can say, is I think my mom and yours would probably be fast friends.

    Take a break from them if you need to, clear your head. I’m happy for you that your at-home family has been so supportive! Good luck.



  • EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoAutism@lemmy.worldAutistic Inertia
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    7 months ago

    Today I learned a thing about myself. It’s probably why I get so locked down, waiting for some scheduled event. Like if I have a thing at 3 pm, I can’t start anything else, cuz I might leave it half done.

    Or wanting to start things like a Pathfinder campaign with my kids or game dev. I don’t know how to start.



  • I feel you. My mom is like “why do you want to have to worry about bigots?” And I’m like “You can’t un-eat from the Tree of Knowledge, mom!”

    Ignorant people make it seem like a choice. The only choice we are making is to express the deepest parts of ourselves, to take off the mask that was foisted upon us.

    You should probably bring up the fact those kids are suicidal is because they don’t have a proper support network, like loving, accepting parents, and then look at them pointedly. And then follow up with “but I have a loving support group that wants me to be happy, so you don’t have to worry about me being a statistic.”


  • My son came out to me a little at a time. Testing the water saying they are lesbian, before they came out as trans. He came out to me in a letter, and was also scared of rejection.

    I knew the statistics, that LGBTQ+ kids have a higher rate of self-harm, depression, and suicide. Knowing nothing at the time, I accepted him on the spot, every time. There was a small pushback from the wife, but I pulled her to the side in private, laid it out, and said he needs our support, regardless of weather we understand anything.

    Your parents sound like they are good people, and your mom is letting you know she is at least okay if you were gay.

    Don’t take this as word of God, but it sounds to me that she may not initially understand you, but she will try. It’s how I was, and now my kids father is their mother lol!

    As a parent, watching my kids grow, and seeing their struggles with coming out and anxiety, seeing how MY family has treated them, and me, I can only grasp at how you are feeling now. I know it’s gotta be tough.

    I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide.