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  • You can always say: ‘I’m reading a book or watch series x atm, why what are you up to / why do you wanna know?’

    Choose a book or series you know by heart and you always have an alibi.

    If they are the kind who asks are you free on day x? Without stating a reason ask ‘why do you wanna know?’ Or say ‘I think I’ve got plans that day why?’
















  • You need to talk with her, be open address your fears and how you feel about the situation. It will be difficult to address, it needs some delicate wording.

    By this I mean make sure that you don’t blame her for having the pain, it is not her fault to feel it. It is understandable that she needs someone to rely on, but not at the expense of your own happiness.

    There is the chance that she will feel attacked and mistreated. That is a risk when discussing any issue. It is best when you tell her that lately you feel exhausted, you wish you could help more but that you cannot. And that you guys need to find a way to deal with it together. It seems to me she is craving / needing the security and someone to rely on so when discussing the issue ensure her that you are there, you are not removing yourself.

    It is also worth noting that you have had time to think about how you feel and what it is that bothers you, she did not have that luxury. For her it will be the first time, that she hears about that. Give her the time she needs, it will take time to adjust, to figure out what she is feeling and how to address the changes that are necessary.

    Lastly, if you two can’t discuss an issue within your relationship in a civil manner it begs the question, is there a point then? Over the years there will be more issues that have to be discussed, problems need solving and if communication fails then there is more hurt coming.