Knowingly conditioning me without my understanding.
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Being caring also involves including their consent in the process. Idk, I’d be really upset by my partner knowingly doing this without talking to me about it. But then again I guess it could depend how they react if I found out before they just admit to it. Like if they got defensive and didn’t understand why I’m upset. I’m not saying the whole thing is horrible, just hiding it.
Also depends on the person and their values, I guess. If you value someone doing that kind of emotional labor for you without you having to think about it. I’m very much used to doing the emotional labor in relationships.
Damn. I just realized maybe I’m displacing here though cuz I’m a bit jealous they’re using a method that works, whereas I’m single for a plethora of reasons.
We can’t get a dog’s consent to engage in experiments. Continuing with this method after realizing and not talking with him about it would be intentionally ignoring consent.
We used to sing “I been beat up and died, I been beeaat up” in my day
kofe@lemmy.worldto politics @lemmy.world•Four Democrats Pass Bill Making It Harder for Married Women to VoteEnglish152·1 month agoDoing nothing is worse than taking rights.
No, the latter is absolutely still worse.
kofe@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•South Carolina executes second man by firing squad in 5 weeksEnglish2·1 month agoI tell forced birthers even if I am murdering a conscious being, I’m justified in protecting myself from unnecessary, nonconsented harm
kofe@lemmy.worldto politics @lemmy.world•Progressive Democrat wonders why nobody questioning Donald Trump’s mental acuity: ‘This is crazy work’English1·1 month agoDementia doesn’t follow a linear decline. He could have good days and worse days
Its the opposite for me. Ive held a lot of resentment but have been working through it. I’m seeing more of the good in people, just needed to build stronger boundaries for myself
kofe@lemmy.worldto politics @lemmy.world•Walz Slams Harris’ ‘Told You So’ After Election LossEnglish9·1 month agoI’m in some circles that would never support her because she sat down with Hasan Piker. I would absolutely support her, but she’s pretty polarizing. Same was said of Bernie despite him having one of the most successful grassroots attempts in history. Blows my mind that because they’re populists they’re immediately discounted by some, even though the positions they support are the ones we desperately need.
Forgive my rant, but just because Trump is a populist with us vs them rhetoric does not make them equal by any fucking stretch of the imagination, and it drives me insane that the friends I’m thinking of are so blinded by the label.
This. Is. Democracy. Manifest!
kofe@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Measles outbreak in Texas hits 481 cases, with 59 new infections confirmed in last 3 daysEnglish21·1 month agoFrom the article:
Singh said the low number of rare breakthrough cases show how effective the vaccine is, and that there are many reasons breakthrough cases might occur, including someone who has a condition that causes their immunity to wane over time
Yeah, I’m pretty set on blaming anyone that voted for Trump. I do get annoyed by people that voted third party or just not at all, but its not their fault by any means. Even though the latter combined would have made a difference, it was republican states that withheld hundreds of thousands from the ability to vote, and that mixed with people that voted for the Republicans cutting voting rights are the source of the problem.
kofe@lemmy.worldto Unpopular Opinion@lemmy.world•"Guys" is ultimately gender neutralEnglish2·2 months agoY’all’re embracing pure beauty
kofe@lemmy.worldto Technology@lemmy.world•Multiple Tesla vehicles were set on fire in Las Vegas and Kansas CityEnglish1611·2 months agoGonna disagree with the anarchist viewpoint because physical damage to inanimate objects can still cause PTSD, battered spouse syndrome with enough incidents over time, etc. It’s the threat of danger that matters.
Just because it doesn’t fit your ideological view doesn’t mean people are lying by looking at it differently
I worked at a public disposal area for a little while and can attest that at least my flyover state/zipcode does separate and sanitize plastic. Cardboard was the only thing that couldn’t have touched oil (including pizza). We only accepted plastics #1 and #2, though, and part of my job included climbing into the dumpster and sorting through. I’d miss it if workers rights weren’t simultaneously such shit* here
*autocorrect trying to sanitize my language too
kofe@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Elon Musk's DOGE asks for access to IRS taxpayer data, sources sayEnglish1·3 months agoFirst thing that came to mind for me is going after retired federal employees, veterans, etc. Also locating immigrants, even if they’re here legally with documentation.
kofe@lemmy.worldto Mildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•The IT Crowd: Jen has been transportedEnglish4·3 months agoTheoretically, one could be speaking in Italy, but that’s only if Italy exists
… I’ll see myself out
kofe@lemmy.worldto Mental Health@lemmy.world•"How did my child grow up to be so depressed?"English7·3 months agoNah. Please do not blame yourself for being a child that didn’t have emotional regulation. Please hold parents to the bare minimum standard of providing modeling of it. Throwing shit or hitting you is not healthy modeling.
kofe@lemmy.worldto politics @lemmy.world•I’m a Federal Worker. You Have No Idea the Irreversible Damage Elon Musk Is Doing.English71·3 months agoKeeping in mind it’s a majority of the voting population. Millions sat out that didn’t in 2020. Millions more don’t show up consistently because they’ve been systematically conditioned into apathy or forced to jump through hoops they can’t prepare for like voter id laws or polling stations being shut down. Same issue - they lack the media literacy or just reading comprehension in general at times.
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