Sometimes, in a split second I get this kind of sadness when I see something.
I saw a guy with his son and he was showing him how to fill the car with petrol.
Nothing special. Unless you’ve never really had a father. Then you think about all the other stuff you had to learn by yourself; like shaving, driving, finding your first job and hundreds of other small things you don’t normally think about.
I suppose there’s pride in having navigated from age 14 till 41 by yourself. But it’s a poor 2nd place prize.
Sorry for the downer.
I feel this so, so hard. I can usually ignore things in real life, but I don’t watch family movies or shows very much because they make me feel the same way, and if I ever do something or have an experience that feels like my idea of normalcy I end up in a euphoric like state for a few hours before crashing really hard and ending up really sad for the next few days
I think you deserve all the hugs in the world for having to feel that way 🫂 That’s heartbreaking. I know you can’t do anything about how it all is and you’re unbelievably bright and level-headed and observant for all you’ve been through, but I hope so much you do find your own family when you become independent and get some of those happy family vibes in your real life. The physical feeling of belonging and security is absolutely unmatched. May you get to experience that for real with good people who will be there for you :D
so many super hugs
I get that feeling from “normalcy” too, then I see the dysfunctional fam and have to tone down my normal.
Thanks sea, I appreciate it
I’m the same with any family related media. It just hurts. I know about that euphoric state you’re talking about. For me, they happen when I succeed at something I’ve been working hard at. I feel really good for a while, then the thoughts of “wish I had a family (that’s average) to celebrate with”.
All my victories are silent.
I lie to people when ask me about my family. I made up a story about how they are all overseas. Stops the weird vibe that happens when you tell the truth.
I felt this with some of the dads at my old workplace. Hearing them having to leave on time to go watch a game or going to a 9 day fortnight so they could spend more time with their kids. I kinda teared up for a bit thinking about how my dad never bothered. If he picked me up he was often late and I once spent 90 minutes waiting on the kerb (in the day before mobiles). The only time he ever came for an accomplishment of mine - the highest one I ever had - he made it all about himself and was a total embarrassment.
It must hit a lot harder as a man. Hugs
I’m sorry you went through that. I really am.
I saw a lot of that when I worked in manual labour. These guys were rough around the edges but they genuinely cared about their families and would do anything to make sure they were safe, happy and secure.
The way they talked about their kids, you could tell deep down they loved them. Even if they had this tough guy exterior.
Sometimes I tear up when I see families in public having fun and just being happy together. Lucky I always wear sunnies outside.
so many many hugs. Yes, your achievements are yours.
I’m a little older than you and am still finding out all the things I should know but don’t, things that an interested parent would have taught.
But I did get taught a whole load of shitty baggage.
Thank you ❤️
Yeah that last part I know all too well. I’m so fucking grateful that I’m nothing like my father. I learned early that he was bad. But it took a hell of a lot of work and effort to correct the bullshit he instilled in me.
Got my flu shot yesterday and feeling a bit meh today. Generally I have little to no side effects, but this one has managed to kick my arse slightly.
Get your flu shots anyway people!!
I’m not allowed. Eating chicken makes me sneeze.
You’re meant to remove the feathers first! /j
Kinky
What about turkey?
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I’ve only ever had 1 flu shot which was during COVID times
Snap, got mine yesterday too. I’ve been fine though.
As far as I know I’ve never had influenza and I’d like to keep it that way.
You’ll probably be fine. I was sick a fair bit last year, so I figure my immune system isn’t as good as it once was.
OCD chillo sorting achieved.
I am very interested in the small mid right ones. The cultivar is old, no longer common, sweet and fuckn’ hawt:
Gawd I’m starting to sound crazy.
I like that the chopping board and the colander tone in with all the glorious red. It all looks amazing.
those are birds eye aren’t they?
My new passport arrived today. Pretty impressive turnaround, I only put the application in on Friday. Definitely a huge improvement on the post-Covid backlog days.
Ugh I feel like I heard somebody walking around on the deck at the front door. I’m not home alone, but the roommate is asleep. It’s probably just possums on the roof, but it definitely felt like somebody on the verandah. I know that it’s probably nothing and to put my mind at rest I should flick the light on and have a peek out the window, but I really don’t want to. The conundrums of being an independent mini human :/
Sometimes just flicking the light in is enough. I hope you’re okay!
It was probably just your friendly neighbourhood Slenderman, nothing to worry about
Is it possible to get a stick on Ring camera? I seem to remember a rental friendly option but then again I think you have to pay a subscription
Edit: You can also maybe use an old phone as a security camera but you’d have to hide it and it’s not protected from weather. Game cameras don’t let you see out there live which is what you want
I’ve actually been considering a ring for a while. Unfortunately it would be a little bit difficult as we probably wouldn’t be allowed to hardwire it. Also since there’ll be a few other people living here soon, everybody would want access to it which has some security implications as well
There’s one I think that you didn’t have to hard wire. But yeah there really should be more renter friendly security cameras. There’s a need
I’m really skeptical of those because it seems like every week there’s a new story about ring or other internet cameras being hijacked
I know, it sucks.
I only mentioned Ring because I think there was a wireless one where the mount stuck on rather than being drilled in and was battery powered rather than hardwired.
Blink by Amazon with double sided tape.
Oh damn, that looked good but support ended
Miss Meow says it is definitely dinner time right now and is claiming my explanation about changing clocks to be an unfounded conspiracy theory.
My phone screen contrast is low due to being in night mode and MissMeow looks rather creepy and eyeless… truly like staring into the void.
Enjoy.
Oh, I gotcha fam
My apologies Miss Meow, but it had to be done!
Miss Meow has seen the photo additions and is not impressed. She has requested to look scary with big teeth instead.
This whole thread 😹😹😹
The good madam’s tummy timer is never wrong.
Is it Hot Take Thursday? I think it is. Anyway my hot take is: Milo is not that great. It’s ok on ice cream or the occasional hot drink but it’s pretty bland.
You’ve just gotta put 10 tablespoons in and then layer it on top of the milk so it’s all crunchy.
I think Nestlé deliberately made Milo Hydrophobic so you’re compelled to add more thus buying more.
That everyone as well as kids <5 need ankle bracelets that deliver an electric current when they’re not walking on the left of footpaths.
Nothing crazy… maybe 220,000 volts or so.
I think if you have a toddler, you and the kid should be implanted with a magnet and it automatically activates in carparks.
Most children under 5 should be leashed
Mine were, lol… both were pretty keen on doing a runner as soon as they were released from the confines of a stroller/car/parent, and I had foot issues after the 2nd pregnancy (plantar fasciitis for example) so i didn’t fancy my chances of hobbling after them. My chase-hobbling looked like a John Cleese silly walk on speed so the cuddly toy baby leash backpack was employed. When my mum passed away and I was clearing out the cupboards I found a 70s baby leash with parental wrist strap… looks like the apple didn’t run far from the tree 😆
My kid was too. Not because she was a runner but because little kids arms get tired from having their arm raised so if she did let go I still had control over her movements.
Excuse my brain: John Cleese & Bill Nighy silly walk stalking toddlers to an Attenborough overdub
He peers at it with bulging eyes and an over extended neck The toddler scones it’self on a coffee table in the fourth suicidal attempt since teatime. One male prances in a hopefully distracting manner, while the other juggles 28 cleaning products. There has been an incident, he must evolve or nobody is getting a pretty blue thing.
Lol that’s good, only need to add a gladiator style ring of audience members judging 😆
heh…
Actually saw that recently at the shops and wasn’t quite sure how to feel about it.
I understand that it’s now OK to do this - apparently having the kid on a leash/harness means they “can explore their world with both hands” rather than going through life with one hand raised up above their head in their mother’s grasp. Apparently the leash/harness is good for brain development and posture. I’m from the first generation where such harnesses were not OK (the Dr Spock baby in person), and I sorta kinda get where they’re coming from. Also a less stressed mum.
Depends how much Milo is used. Needs half a cup of Milo powder to get any taste. I don’t buy it any more. Too $$$$$$
I prefer not to have to chew my drink.
who said Milo is a drink?
Booo!
I tried the aldi one and found it pretty gross. My mum used to “make” her own with sugar and cocoa powder. Honestly I rate that.
Lord of the Rings movie : kinda boring and a serious lack of Tom Cruise🔥
What role, exactly, do you envision Tom Cruise in? Because I’m imagining him as Gandalf and I can’t stop laughing
Haha yes!
“ Look to my coming, on the first light of the fifth day…and then you will SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!””
Gandalf is supposed to be like 8’ tall 🤣
He is often stood on a box purportedly. But plastering stilts are probably more the go for that role. 🤭
Sméagol!
I think Tom would make a great Alfrid Lickspittle. Would be nice to see him in a supporting role and not the hero for once.
I hate Macs
Fast food, overcoats, Scottish people??
Maybe Apple?
Oh yes, silly me
The computer
Ah! I’ve not tried a recent one. Adored my Macs until they got up to the weird coloured ones. Got an emulator for some of the games 😺
It and I just don’t seem to be jiving for the things I do most often
I agree with your hot take, although I guess that makes it a cold take
It used to be better. Now it’s so expensive for what it is.
Bring back the original Milo bars I say.
My god they were good, even if I looked like a cartoon character who consumed alum afterwards.
The OG Milo ice cream cups from the swimming pool kiosk!
I need 10 hours sleep from now on. 8 isn’t enough. So tired…
Ugh, fkn clothes moths. uGH UGH
Noooo
Not you too
Mine seem to be dealt with now but I’ve moved on to fighting fleas
Bill and Ted are such lazy arses that they are getting moths. 😬
I’m not kidding.
They sit down and little moths fly up from their fur. I’m brushing them but obviously not enough.
Can’t wait for some spiders to move in and take care of the buffet.
Tonight tackling the pile.
Seed collection, making flakes/dust, fermenting and trying not to rub eyes or no no bits
Only fermenting the really little ones as they’re unique for some reason and I need to see what happens.
But… planning on collecting a lot of the seeds, so if anyone wants any, lemmy know if you Want it (they last for years).
Which brings us to today’s rave choon:
gloves
😻
I didn’t know capsicums and chillies could ferment
Get a message from mygov ‘link your digital id!’
Actual link goes to using your digital id to log into your mygov oh hell no.
yup, I got a mygov scam today too
Oh nonono this was legit.
My gov inbox letter inviting me via mygov to link my digital id…as a login method to mygov.
Again, hell no.
Everytime I’ve had to call it begs me about a dozen times to say “in Australia my voice identifies me”. It’s not so much the technology that makes me not want to do it, I mean my banks been doing it since at least 2018, but the phrase just makes me feel funky and I don’t know why
Considering motherboard literally already demonstrated accessing someone’s bank account with voice synthesis fuck that
If you’ve got the energy, make an account on https://www.phish.report/ and start a takedown. It automatically find out who the domain registrar is (in my experience usually namesilo) and the domain host (usually Alibaba cloud) is and gives you a little button you can use to report it to them. Usually gets taken down within 24 hours
If you don’t have the energy for all that, DM me the domain page and I’ll do it
Edit: it also has buttons to report it to google and Bing threat intelligence/safe browsing, which is what triggers that “THE PAGE AHEAD MAY CONTAIN DECEPTIVE CONTENT” warning with the big red screen
Out walking the doggo with a beer, thinking a burger would be nice right now…Whatever happened to food trucks at parks of an autumn evening?
Online friend group drama has gone full batshit and is affecting my own mental health. Time to log off and just try and take a break from there. :/
so many hugs, listen to nice music instead 🤗😘
Clouds are clearing in Gippsland, this is good as I didn’t want to inspect a car in the rain. Please let this be a decent one, I hate car shopping so much.
I hear you re car shopping. I’m going to have to do that soon, too. Good luck! 🤞🏻
Ooops! Overslept and hour and a half and was late for work today.
Hope the day goes quickly today.
My hope for no rain today?
ground and everything is so wet here, I’m wondering if was just a heavy dew
