What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner’s attention?

  • Drusas@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I’ve taught my husband to speak a bit of Japanese, but we don’t use it this way because that’s extremely rude.

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      1 year ago

      I wouldn’t say we speak in people’s faces, but we make comments to each other about random stuff. I would never say something rude about somebody in their faces, but my spouse might go, “Can we go back to the hotel, I really need to take a shit” or something silly and unfiltered like that.

        • putoelquelolea@lemmy.ml
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          1 year ago

          It’s rude for spouses to have a private conversation? Would whispering be better? Would it be better if they hid in a cupboard where no one could see them?

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            1 year ago

            Yes, it’s generally considered rude to switch languages specifically to hide your conversation.

            It’s because most will assume you are doing it to talk shit.

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              1 year ago

              Sure, if people suddenly switched languages and then laughed in my face, I would feel bad.

              But if it’s like the other comments in this post, and it’s a couple having a quick word about a private matter, I wouldn’t mind. It’s not like I should be a part of that conversation

            • The_v@lemmy.world
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              1 year ago

              This varies depending on the cultural norms of the country.

              Japanese: I have been in high level meetings with a Japanese company. As soon as I walked into the room they all switched to English. Some of their English was weak but they still made the effort. When I commented on how much I appreciated it, surprised Pikachu faces all around. They responded course they would swap, to do otherwise is rude.

              In France I have had business meetings with with 8 people around a table all of who all spoke english. 4 of them were native French speakers, 1 polish, 2 Arabic, and me the sole native English speaker. The native French speakers spoke French the entire time. They would swap to English to interrupt the English language conversation then swap back to French amongst themselve. If two or more native French speakers are together, they speak French and don’t give a fuck if they include you or not. They then act all surprised that you didn’t follow their in French conversation.

          • Drusas@kbin.social
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            1 year ago

            It is rude to intentionally speak in a language that the people around you don’t understand (especially if you’re doing so specifically because they don’t understand it), yes.

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      1 year ago

      That’s probably a cultural thing, isn’t it? In diverse areas, people don’t expect to understand what they hear others say, so there’s no “Speak ___; we’re in ___” culture.

      • AstridWipenaugh@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        I’d say it’s more of a context thing. If you’re hanging out in a group of people chatting together and you code switch to speak to someone so nobody else can understand, that’s rude. If you’re just speaking to someone in another language on your own, nobody cares (except xenophobic bigots).

      • Ashtear@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        Definitely an American thing. Wide swaths of the country have issues with any kind of diversity.

        • Zangoose@lemmy.one
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          1 year ago

          I wouldn’t even include all of America in that either. It’s really just a rural America thing. Sure 99.9% of people will speak/understand English, but in my anecdotal experience, it’s pretty common near big cities for people to be bilingual and grow up speaking a different language with their families.

          • Ashtear@lemm.ee
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            1 year ago

            For sure not the whole country. Don’t have to go far into the suburbs to find this kind of behavior, though.